If you’ve ever heard women talking, you know that they talk about sex just as much as we do. And, similar to how we complain, they do to. Most of us dudes make it our missions to please a woman but you’ve probably noticed that most women haven’t got the slightest interest in pleasing us. Many of them think that if they just get naked, we’ll have a great time and they just leave it up to us to bring home the bacon (erm…orgasm).
I initially wanted to write a different article this week, one that proved why a woman’s looks has a direct impact on her sexual performance however, in order to write that I had to come up with a way to dictate what is and isn’t a good sexual experience.
Similarly to how we grade women based on looks (from 1 to 10), I think it’s only natural that we should grade the sex we have with them as well. Judging a sexual encounter is important because it will allow you to KNOW what you want from a sexual partner.
During the years I’ve had my fair share of sexual partners. However, most if not all of them fall in the below 5 categories. This is a scale from 1 (lowest) to 5 (highest) and it looks something like this:
#1. The one that tries too much (aka The Disaster)
This girl has the potential to become the Pornstar (#5) but she hasn’t yet watched enough porn. Because she tries so hard, she moves out of sinc; is sloppy; does a good job at taking your attention off the sex part and more to the “WTF is she doing” part; she has the highest percentage of male genitalia injury; breaks condoms; helps you lose your boner and gives you a genuinely bad sexual experience.
Chicks that fall into this category are inexperienced and believe that a man’s penis is made out of a rubber that has no pain receptors. If they have been drinking, they would also fall into this category. That’s just one more reason to avoid “taking advantage” of inebriated women.
#2. The one that’s scared (aka The Virgin)
This girl doesn’t necessarily have to be a virgin because she can still act the part many years after she’s popped that priceless cherry. She will usually look at you with fear in her eyes as if she has no idea about what’s going to happen. She gently pushes you away as if she’s not ready for the event and when it does happen she continues to act like it’s the first time. She usually sits in some extremely awkward positions that make you give up and just go missionary. This girl will eventually bust your nut but she’ll surely leave you with a sense of disappointment and/or guilt.
#3. The one that doesn’t move (aka The Starfish or The Doll)
The girl doesn’t know, doesn’t care or doesn’t like to do anything. As sad as that may seem, at least she doesn’t do anything that disrupts the actual lovemaking. Because of that, she will probably have many more orgasms than #1 and #2 simply because she lets the man do his thing. This is particularly true if the dude lives to please, in which case she’ll have a fantastic time.
But what about the guy? While this may be enough for many men, the ones that have sex more than a few times a year would probably like to see more. However, the overall sexual experience is average but quite acceptable for most of us.
This type of woman is by far the most common, at least around the age of 25 and really does go behind the belief that all a woman has to do in bed is to get naked and say YES.
#4. The one that does something (aka The Girlfriend)
This chick has had at least one somewhat serious relationship in her life where she has witnessed that indeed, a man does want more than a starfish. While she may be incredibly experienced in the art of lovemaking, she does go that little bit extra, enough to put a smile on our faces.
All girls can and will eventually become this girl, as long as they end up in a relationship with a dude that asks for it.
#5. The one that knows (aka The Pornstar)
This is the girl that knows what she’s doing. I don’t know if it’s the porn she watched, the amount of sex she had or what it is but you know it when you see it. This is the girl dudes leave their wives for. This is the girl that was born to have sex and she knows it.
If you manage to land such a slampiece you’re one lucky bastard. Although you may constantly have the “feeling” that she’s either cheating on you, or there’s something about her past you don’t quite want to know, this girl is still going to blow your mind. She’s the type of girl you’ll give up crack for.
Note: With age, also comes experience. Generally, women below 25 don’t have a clue about what they want in a sexual partner; let alone what to do with one. Women over 25 start to have a good idea about what they want and start to make an effort towards their partners. Only after 30 do most women become “sexually liberated” and will be able to provide you with high quality sex. Of course there are exceptions but this is generally true. Finally, if we were going through this scale purely by age, EXCLUDING all exceptions, it would look like this:
Under 25: The Disaster, The virgin, The doll – very rare chance to find the Pornstar.
Over 25: The doll, The girlfriend. – will sometimes find the Pornstar.
Over 30: The girlfriend, The Pornstar. – your wife might already be a Pornstar.
But Alex, what about looks? Would this scale be any different based on how a girl looks? Of course it will and that’s what we’ll cover in next week’s article.
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.
Worried About Finishing Too Quickly? Here’s How To Last Longer In Bed
You finally worked up the nerve to ask out that cutie from accounting. The date is going great, sparks are flying, and she suggests heading back to your place to hang out. It doesn’t take long for the clothes to start flying, and after some quick foreplay, it’s time for the main event. Only you get too worked up and cum almost immediately. Why couldn’t you last longer in bed?!
Look, we’ve all been there at one point or another. Maybe the girl was so far out of your league that you got too excited (like Jim from American Pie). Or maybe it’s been awhile since you’ve had sex, and you just couldn’t control yourself.
Sadly, for some people this is a regular occurrence. If you fall into that category, not to worry, as we’ve got some tips that should help you last longer between the sheets, ensuring that both of you get off and go to sleep with smiles on your faces.
1. Masturbate An Hour Or Two Before Sex
If you’re planning on having sex, it couldn’t hurt to rub one out a few hours beforehand. Why? Because unlike women, when a man ejaculates, his body (ie. balls) needs some time to recover before going for a second round. So if you empty the chamber before the big event, you should be able to go a little longer the next time around.
2. Take Care Of Her Needs First
It’s a known fact that women take longer to reach climax, so if you’re typically a little quick on the draw, focus on foreplay and getting her off first. Trust me, if you go down on her (sorry DJ Khaled) and focus on giving her the big O, then no matter what happens afterwards, she’s still going to be a satisfied customer who will likely be coming back for more.
3. Slow Things Down If You Need To
If you sense that you’re about to go past the point of no return, tell your partner that you need to slow down. You can say to her, “You’re so hot. I’m not going to last long if we keep this up,” and stimulate her orally or manually until you have regained control of the situation and are ready to continue. Trust me, she’ll appreciate your candor, and the fact that you’re looking out for her enjoyment as well.
4. Use A Desensitizing Spray
If you’re still struggling on how to last longer in bed, consider trying a desensitizing spray like Promescent for lasting longer during lovemaking. The spray absorbs into the skin in a matter of minutes, optimally desensitizing the penis and allowing for better control with negligible loss of sensitivity, so you can keep the party going a bit longer.
5. Try The Squeeze Technique
As the name suggests, the squeeze technique involves physically squeezing your penis (ouch) to stop yourself from cumming too soon when you feel your orgasm coming on. Simply stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis, applying firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger for about 5-10 seconds. Done right, this will temporarily decrease sexual tension, which represses the ejaculation response.
So there you have it, five tips to help you increase your sexual performance and help you and your partner get more satisfaction in the bedroom. And if all else fails, it might be time to discuss your premature ejaculation issues with a doctor.
Adult VR Distributors Look To Netflix For Inspiration
Digital subscription services like Netflix and Hulu have revolutionized the way that we watch video. Adult VR distributors are hoping it will do the same for VR porn. This month, the world’s most popular VR porn website announced a new subscription service called VRPorn.com Premium. It’s being hailed as the Netflix of VR Porn and some believe it might be the final step in taking VR porn mainstream.
For $19.95 a month, VRPorn.com will give you unlimited streaming and video downloads from all the major VR porn studios. While this might be old news for the film industry, it’s brand new for the adult VR world. Up until now, VR porn fans had to manage multiple subscriptions across different sites. Now, users can make a single monthly payment and unlock hundreds of full-length videos from over 25 of the biggest studios.
Major adult VR studios like BaDoinkVR, VirtualRealPorn, and RealityLovers are all taking part in the program. This large number of studios means that the Premium library already holds over 500 full-length videos with more being added on a weekly basis. A membership grants you access to many VR porn video games as well, unlocking exclusive demos of popular games like Virt-A-Mate, SinVR, and many others.
One of the major benefits of this new approach is that smaller, independent studios have the chance to gain more exposure. By pooling all their work together, VRPorn.com hopes to shine a light on some of the lesser known studios and encourage more producers to experiment with VR porn.
The rise of adblock and pirating software has made it difficult for many creators to make money off their work. One solution to this problem might be a transition towards more exclusive forms of media like virtual reality. Because VR video is still relatively rare, people are willing to pay a premium for quality content. If this project from VRPorn.com is successful it could provide a roadmap for all kinds of video artists who are struggling to monetize their content.
VRPorn.com already had millions of monthly visitors as the result of its free content. With this latest addition, the site hopes to transform some of that traffic into paying customers. It will be interesting to see how this new financial model plays out in the months to come.
A Gentleman’s Guide to Foreplay
“Hey babe,” you greet your beloved girlfriend as you come home from the gym. “Hey,” she reciprocates. You give her a quick peck on the lips. “How was your workout?”
“Fantastic…” you say dreamily, but the only thought on your mind at the moment is to release the horniness that’s been built up from your chest workout. From behind, you wrap your arms tightly around her abs and kiss her gently on the neck. Then you take her hand and try to take her to the bedroom.
“Sweetie…not now…” she says with a sigh.
“Oh…ok,” you say, visibly disappointed.
This is the third time this week she’s “not in the mood” If this happens again, I’m going to need a strait jacket.
Do you ever feel the lust in your sex life disappearing? Do you miss those first few times when you both couldn’t wait to get your hands on one another? Or maybe you feel uncomfortable when your date is going well, but you have difficulty transitioning from a riveting conversation to a sexual spark in the bedroom?
The key to maintaining this fire is foreplay. Women love it, but us men are often times too impatient to spend much time in this department. But, as a man, if you don’t take steps to get her in the mood for sex, then you won’t be having much of it.
For women, foreplay is just as important as sex, and a true gentleman knows how to turn a woman on.
Here are a few tips:
Most guys try to be efficient when it comes to sex, which means less teasing and more fucking. But a woman doesn’t want that.
Foreplay starts with verbal teasing while your clothes are still on. By teasing her, you show her that you are comfortable with tension, and tension is the gateway to arousal.
This is why makeup sex is so passionate. When she’s riled up and has an excess amount of tension built up, it’s all released through orgasm. With more tension, she’ll have a stronger release.
Something you can do to really turn her on is to make her anticipate your next move, but don’t immediately fulfill her desires. This will build up tension quickly.
For example, if you’re going down on her, don’t immediately thrust your tongue inside of her. Instead, go from making out with her to kissing down her body until you reach her pelvic region. Then lick the inner part of the upper thighs and kiss around her clit. When you start going down on her, lick her once lightly, pause, then lick a bit deeper. At this point, she will be gyrating her hips towards your mouth begging for more. Then go for it.
And the same concept applies right before sex itself. Before you stick it in, make sure you “paint the fence.” Take your penis and rub it up and down across the clit and vaginal lips. This will get her wet instantly.
2) Be verbally dominant
You can call her names if she’s into that, and a lot of girls are. You can also give her commands. As you are teasing her, you can say things like, “tell me that you want me…” or “say that you want me inside of you…”
Then she’ll be the one trying to escalate things.
3) Know the erogenous zones
Obviously everyone knows the lips. But also pay attention to her neck, her nipples, her butt, her inner thighs, and her ears. You can bite her neck, play with her nipples until they’re hard, grab and spank her butt, and lick and kiss her inner thighs.
The one body part that most guys miss is her ears. When you lick a girl’s ears during foreplay or during sex, it’ll drive her crazy.
4) Be present
To really get her turned on, you have to know when to switch things up and when to keep pressing on. So be present and watch her reactions.
If you notice that she’s getting really turned on when you bite her neck and pull her hair, keep doing that. But it’s usually best to see which erogenous zones turn her on the most and focus on those.
Don’t just follow the same routine. Experiment and change things up. Maybe you have certain “moves” that you’re experienced with, but if you open yourself up to different possibilities, then you might find something that will drive her wild that you haven’t tried before. Then that could become your next “move.”
If you want to differentiate yourself from the crowd, be sure to keep these tips in mind. Remember, most guys don’t know how to build tension. Sometimes they’ll get nervous and just want to “get laid” and get it over with. Sometimes they tire of the routine and feel like it’s an obligation. Sex should never feel like an obligation.
Once you go out and start applying these principles, you’ll become the guy who’s always on her mind.
About Marcus Awakuni
Marcus was a shy, introverted nerd turned ladies man. He studied mathematics as an undergrad at BYU and planned to attend grad school, but after his father passed away shortly after graduating, he had a change of heart. He moved to Las Vegas and became a dating coach, and is now dedicated to revolutionizing the dating advice industry with his new age approach. You can find him at AGL Lifestyles, or send him an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.