Being asked for texting advice, almost on a daily basis, is a good indicator that my fellow, male compatriots are grasping the true reality of our modern life. Calling chicks and asking them out over the phone is almost completely dead. These days, there are barely any times when calling a chick under 30, to sort out a date, is the right move.
As I’ve said before, having game is about molding perfectly with what society throws at us, being a reflection of culture if you will – refusing to text girls because you prefer calling just means that your level of game is crippled and you’re unable to mold with what modern society demands.
Because everyone seems to be “busy” – calling someone on the phone when they least expect it may actually be seen as rude. The right kind of texting allows you to literally spend less time and energy scoring chicks as opposed to the nerve-racking and time consuming process of “phone game”. To put this even more simply, by embracing these social norms, modern women are now making men put less effort into banging them.
If you’re still unable to adapt to the circumstances there are 2 very rare occasions in which calling a girl might actually be more beneficial: if she knows you, thus avoiding the awkward introduction of who you are and why you are calling; if she personally said “Call Me” when she gave you her number. But, even in these scenarios, you will most certainly NOT LOSE out on a potential bang if you text her instead.
Guide To Texting:
Because texting is a far more complicated subject, today we’ll be looking at how to text a chick when you want to ask her out, these should usually be the first few texts that you send after you’ve got her number at a venue somewhere.
Note: This is typical but I’m going to mention it anyway. Make sure you leave some subjects opened before you ask for her number thus giving you something to talk about when you text her; make sure remember stuff she said about herself, thus giving you more things to say to her while texting.
Important: Do not ask her out with the first text.
So many guys do this and they never get a response because it’s just too soon. You can’t demand this from her, not yet anyway – at this point in time, your whole focus should be getting her to reply not getting her straight into bed.
“Hey sexy/gorgeous/beautiful/babe/[compliment], was soo great to meet you last night/I had such a good/great time last night (over ecstatic introduction of how you met). Want to go out this weekend?”
Do you not see how this text makes you come out as a needy wuss? This is what most guys on this planet do. The only time when you can ask her out with the first text is when you almost banged her the night before – this is also known as a super solid number. In every other scenario, wait to get a response first then, ask her out.
Your first text should always obey these rules:
- Do not put her on a pedestal (calling her sexy, gorgeous, babe, giving kisses etc)
- Do not ask her out
- Make it easy for her to reply back
To make things even easier for you I’ve made a 5 step structure that you can always use when “creating” your first text.
Step 1. Start message with: “Hey name/nickname”. Nickname should be based on something that either happened or was discussed in your initial face to face conversations. Humor is always good to break the ice and will almost always get her to reply back.
Step 2. Bring up something that went very well during your initial conversation. This can be something you both really connected over, something emotional, something that made you both laugh, or something that you know 100% she enjoyed talking to you about.
Step 3. Assume you already know what she’s doing based on what you’ve discussed in your initial conversation and say it to her. This will get you a response if you’re right but it will also get you a response if you’re wrong, either way, you get a response.
Step 4. Ask a specific question that she has to respond to. No question mark in your text is still enough of a reason for her to ignore you.
Step 5. End with your name/nickname that will remind her of who you are and where you met etc. She should already know who you are due to step 1-2-3 but still add it so she has no reason to say she didn’t know the number etc.
“Hey frisky Katie, are you still studying for that big exam on Thursday? I bet you’re in your pajamas right now, watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s and drinking some of that sweet red wine… Alex from [Venue Name]”
Quick explanation: she was incredibly frisky so we joked about that all night, used it in the text. She told me about her big exam, used it in the text and made it as a question. She told me one of her favorite thing to do is to watch classic movies in her pajamas whilst drinking some red wine, used it as an assumption. Basically I used all I could from our conversations into the first text and I did not ask her out.
Important: You need to gauge how into you she is.
When she replies back, this is the perfect time to see how into you she actually is. This tells you if she’s worth more effort or not.
Let’s say you asked her “How was your weekend?” – Because you couldn’t come up with anything else.
If she says: “it was ok” – It’s quite evident that she isn’t all that into you.
If she says: “Hey, yeah it was quite all right, didn’t do much on Sunday and now I’m back to work L, how about you?” – She’s obviously interested so keep going.
Asking Her Out:
You need to follow 2 very important rules when asking her out.
- Don’t be boring – don’t be like every other Dick and Joe that she’s met time and time again.
- Give clear details – Girls hate making the decisions about a date, you’re the one with the cohones so man up! Sell her on your specific date idea and when she’s into it, confirm it with clear time and location.
Boring, unclear examples that most guys actually send: “So, you want go out this weekend? / I was wondering if you’d like to go out this weekend?” – boooring!
You: “Listen, I still want to talk classic movies (your common interest), knock back a few Cubans (the other thing you’ll be doing there – drinking) and watch you being frisky. How does this Wednesday at [Venue] sound? (always better to ask during the week since she might already have plans for the weekend)”
Her: “haha yeah, that sounds fun!”
You: “Cool, meet me at [Venue/Some common point before venue] at X time”
Being in control and giving clear details works like a charm. I was once trying to get this girl out and she wasn’t too keen on the idea, even though I was gently pushing it for like 2 days. I didn’t care so I just told her I’m going out anyway. On the night she asks me, “What are you up to?” when she already knew I was about to go out with my pack of dudes. In any case, I replied: “I’m still going to [venue], you’ve got 1 more hour to get ready.” And yep, she came, alone, we banged, she came, amazing!
Important: Make sure she doesn’t flake and always have a back-up plan in case she does.
Most guys send needy texts asking the chick if it’s still on. Don’t be that guy, assume it is and just say something about it. “Mmmm … cubans” if you agreed to go out for cocktails. If no reply/flaking make sure you have a back-up plan. There’s nothing worse than your whole night to depend on a girl you’ve barely met, sitting at home and waiting for a reply to see if you should jump in the shower. Always take her out on days you know you can do something else in case she flakes. I use Wednesdays because that’s also ladies night at another good venue in the area – but this is a totally different subject matter.
Remember: these “texting skills” will only get you to see her again. You still need some proper game if you expect things to get physical…
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.
Apple Introduces New (RED) iPhone 8 / Plus Special Edition
Apple is doing it again, unveiling (PRODUCT)RED Special Edition versions of the iPhone 8 and iPhone 8 Plus, which sport a beautiful glass enclosure, now in red, with a matching aluminum band and a sleek black front. Other than that, it’s exactly the same as other iPhone 8 models.
Not only do the new phones look great, but as part of Apple’s long-time partnership with the (RED) campaign, a portion of the proceeds go directly to fighting HIV/AIDS in Sub-Saharan Africa through the Global Fund. Since partnering with (RED) in 2006, Apple has raised over $160 million for this great cause.
“We are proud to support (RED) with this bold new iPhone and hope customers think it is as special as we do,” said Greg Joswiak, Apple’s vice president of Product Marketing.
The iPhone 8 and iPhone 8 Plus (PRODUCT)RED Special Edition will be available in 64GB and 256GB models, with pricing starting at $699. Pre-orders start tomorrow, and you’ll be able to buy it at Apple stores on Friday. So if you’ve been thinking about getting a new iPhone, here’s your chance to support a worthy cause while getting a great phone. But don’t wait too long, as these will sell out before you know it!
And don’t feel left out iPhone X users, as you can still support the cause by purchasing a dark red leather folio ($99), which is crafted from specially tanned and finished European leather for a luxurious look and feel. This case will be available for purchase starting tomorrow.
What do you think of the iPhone 8 (PRODUCT)RED Special Edition?
Rough On Technology? Then Look For These Features In Your Next Smartphone
If you are tired of handling your smartphone with kid gloves, it might be time for you to upgrade to something sturdier. No phone is indestructible, but rugged smartphones come pretty close. You can drop them, splash water on them, and trust that the screen won’t crack and that the battery won’t be screaming for juice before the day is over. They say dog is a man’s best friend, but rugged smartphones may be a close second.
Here are some features you should keep an eye out for if you’re hunting for the Rambo of smartphones:
The word “rugged” refers to more than tougher perks or thicker frames; the best “rugged” smartphones also undergo a military-grade assessment. In order for a phone to meet military-grade durability standards, it has to withstand shock, dust, water submersion, high temperatures, and strong vibrations. These phones are built to deliver, without losing the functionality of a regular smartphone. Most durable phones will be advertised with a “rugged” tagline, but make sure to ask or inspect the listed features.
There is no point having a durable smartphone if it’s back on charge before it can prove its worth. So look for a battery that is 3500mAh or higher, as this should give you about two days before your next charge. You’ll also want to keep an eye out for features like fast wired or wireless charging in order to maximize your time spent unplugged.
Dust and Water Resistance
Not all rugged phones are created equal when it comes to dust and water resistance. While most of them can withstand sand, dust, or salt mist, water resistance varies by phone. Some phones can handle splashing, while others can be submerged in water for a set amount of time and up to a certain depth. Check for an IP68 water/dust resistance feature, like the one on the Samsung Galaxy S8 Active available from T-Mobile, for the best results when choosing a phone. This means your phone will be water resistant when submerged up to 5 feet for a total of 30 minutes.
Shatter Resistant Screen (Heavy Falls)
Sometimes regular smartphones can feel like handheld mirrors. All it takes is one drop or bump, and you’re looking at a cracked reflection and a payment in the near future. With a shatter resistant screen and a drop proof phone you can forget looking at those cracks or bills again. These phones have been drop tested and can even sustain falls of five feet or more.
While the emphasis is placed on shatterproof screens and avoiding unnecessary cracks, there are several other useful features to look out for. Some screens come with glare resistance, making them easy to use in the sun. Where you might usually shade your phone with a hand or adjust the brightness, these phone screens work the same come cloud or sunshine.
Another handy feature to keep an eye out for is wet screen technology. While more of a luxury, this feature makes sure that your finger tracking isn’t affected by screen dampness. It’s a handy add-on, especially if you work in damp environments.
While not a perk in and of itself, choosing the right carrier is almost as important as choosing the right phone. When you’re relying on your carrier to keep you connected, you want one with low downtimes, low latency, and high speeds online.
A carrier with low latency means you will generally experience smaller delay times when loading websites, and high speeds enable you to download content quickly. T-Mobile has the highest ranking for speed across the board, with Verizon and AT&T slightly behind. Choosing the right carrier can drastically improve your user experience.
In fact, if you’re locked into a contract, the carrier is something you’ll have to deal with for a while. Before you make up your mind, be sure to check out the mobile coverage map in your area, as well as the quality of the service. The last thing you want is to be stuck somewhere with no reception or an unreliable phone when you need it the most.
Hopefully by referring to this guide, you can choose a phone that is durable, reliable, and near unbreakable, so you can forget about cracked screens, overheating, and water damage for good.
It’s Not Your Imagination, Apple Admits They’re Slowing Down Older iPhones
If you’ve noticed your older iPhone getting slower and slower with each iOS update, it’s not your imagination, but rather a questionable feature that Apple finally owned up to today that purposely “limits the performance of older iPhones” that have battery issues.
While some are quick to point the finger at Apple and claim that this is a case of planned obsolescence, that may not be the case at all. You see, lithium-ion batteries degrade over time, which can sometimes cause phones to suddenly shut down in order to protect their components.
Apple claims that their software updates for the iPhone 6, iPhone 6S, iPhone SE and iPhone 7 are designed to “smooth out” peak power demands, prevent these surprise shutdowns and ultimately prolong the lifespan of batteries.
When asked for a statement, Apple tried to justify this decision:
Lithium-ion batteries become less capable of supplying peak current demands when in cold conditions, have a low battery charge or as they age over time, which can result in the device unexpectedly shutting down to protect its electronic components.
Last year we released a feature for iPhone 6, iPhone 6s and iPhone SE to smooth out the instantaneous peaks only when needed to prevent the device from unexpectedly shutting down during these conditions. We’ve now extended that feature to iPhone 7 with iOS 11.2, and plan to add support for other products in the future.
But here’s the problem with that. These updates can leave your phone running REALLY slowly, forcing many people to update their phones earlier than they wanted to, when in reality they could have just replaced their batteries (for a much cheaper price) and kept using their existing phones.
Of course, Apple doesn’t want that, as no one would be upgrading to the “latest and greatest” iPhones, since the current phones pretty much do everything that most people need. Heck, that’s why I kept my iPad 2 for all these years, until it became so painfully slow that it was unusable.
Me, I’ll just continue trading in my iPhone every 2 years for the new one, as it’s basically an even trade. 🙂