So, you’re thinking of moving in with your girlfriend, good for you. Some of your friends will say “congratulations,” while others will say, “you’re joking, right?” You may be spending a lot of time with her right now, but moving in and cohabitating is different. There are a lot of small changes that you will have to put up with, and if you want to stay on good terms, you should learn about them as quickly as possible. This is exactly what you should expect when you move in with her.
No More Guy Food
Remember those weeks of eating burgers, onion rings, fries and crispy, fried chicken? You’ll be lucky to see that once a month when you move in with your girlfriend. You will suddenly find that her diet is your diet, unless you don’t mind cooking everything yourself or going out everyday.
Not only that, but if you disagree with her diet, prepare for days of nagging. She will tell you just how bad your food is, and even though she is right, it will be grating. Before moving in, you should find out exactly what she eats, and start preparing yourself for salads, small amounts of baked chicken and fish and lots of water.
Who Has Time For Sports?
Remember last Sunday? You had your chips and soda ready for a good, long day of football. You watched every hour of it, rooted and screamed and had a great time. Expect sports to be largely removed from your life, because your girlfriend will not put up with you planting your butt in the couch all day just to ignore her.
However, hope is not lost. This is about compromise. Is your favorite team playing at a certain time? Schedule your day around that. If the game is at 1pm, then take her out after that game. This relieves any nagging, and you get to have fun with her and the game.
Understand Her Sleep Schedule
First of all, actually sleeping all night with your girlfriend can be a difficult experience, especially if she tosses and turns. However, even if that isn’t the case, you may have to take on her sleep schedule. If she wakes up at 6am, then her alarm and movements will probably wake you up, too. You can prepare for this by going to sleep with her, which you will probably want to do anyway, and just asking her when she usually wakes up.
Women use this a lot because they know it works, and because they know it will confuse you to no end. Never assume the “I don’t need any help” or “I’m fine” remark means just that. When she says this, you better get up and help her or figure out what you did wrong.
Once you get used to it, it won’t be that hard to understand, but be ready for these mind games. Taking time to talk with her and really understanding her feelings can help, and it can improve your relationship.
Frequent Store Trips
No guy knows why, but girlfriends always seem to have a need to go to the store. Whether they forgot lettuce or just need something to do, they will make frequent trips. Or, they will send you on those frequent trips. Be ready to constantly go to the store to buy something.
You can try asking her if she remembered everything, but this rarely works. This is just something you should get used to.
Less Relaxation Time
It doesn’t matter if work was hard, you are going to have less relaxation time. Most girlfriends are very active, and always seem to have something to do. Whether you need to go out with her or fix something around the apartment or house, prepare yourself to move around just as much as she does.
This is a great reason to get in shape to keep up with her. Also, if you prepare your mind for activity rather than sitting down, it will make it much better when you finally can relax.
It may sound like a nightmare to move in with your girlfriend, but doing so shows that you love her and that you want to advance your relationship. Yes, there are a lot of changes, but you may find that changing is fun.
Christina Maquire writes for U-Pack, a company helping people move today.