A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post about six things you could improve right away to score more women. In a small part, I mentioned how learning game and getting experience can dramatically reduce the number of approaches one has to make in order to score a bang.
Today, I want to talk about how to INCREASE your frequency of lays (how to get laid more often) purely by understanding the importance of NUMBERS.
I’m going to use two made up, completely average guys to prove a fantastic point. Let’s call them Joe 1 and Joe 2. Both Joes need to approach about 30 women in order to get a bang and they both spit the exact same game.
However, Joe 2 get’s laid 12 times more often than Joe 1. So, how is this possible?
Let’s look at their strategies:
Joe 1 pretends to have high standards so he prefers the more traditional approach towards scoring women. He likes to sit back and make occasional attempts at girls that he deems worthy (either girls from his social circle or random approaches in a bar). Basically, this guy doesn’t have any prospects, but when he occasionally gets one, he very often fails (29 out of 30) and goes back to having no prospects. Because he rarely gets to talk to women, his game will remains in the same state, never having the chance to improve since the amount of interactions are so rare.
This means that he’s often overexcited when he does talk to women and rarely has the chance to blow his load. Sadly, this makes him focus all his mental power on 1 measly prospect at a time. Because this is how he rolls, his game gets weaker with time.
His current rate of approach is 2 a month which means Joe 1 barely gets laid once a year.
Joe 2 is hard working and prefers the player approach towards scoring women. He doesn’t like to sit back but rather he approaches as many women as he can on a regular basis (he’s got no time for social circle hookups). He does his best to approach at least 10 chicks a week. Because he moves so quickly he reaches 30 approaches within a month. This means that our friend Joe 2 here gets at least a notch per month. Because he does so many approaches and has somewhat regular sex, his game will also improve at least every 6 months.
While both guys have the same conversion ratio for sex, because Joe 1 has a crippled strategy, Joe 2 scores 12 times as more women. Considering that Joe 2’s game is also improving every 6 months, by the time Joe 1 hits that very first notch, Joes 2 has already lowered his sex conversion rate to 1 in 20.
What Does This Mean To You?
If you want to get laid a whole lot more often, you need to approach a whole lot more often.
In order to sleep with any one girl you have to do a number of approaches, if you’re like the Joes, that’s 30. Those approaches will yield at least 8 phone numbers. Those 8 phone numbers will turn into at least 4 dates and one of those dates will be your chance to bust your nut.
The big secret here is to constantly deal with dates/numbers/lays. You see, Joe 1 never does anything like this because his entire energy is focused towards that one prospect. He only deals with date/number/potential lay.
At the same time, Joe 2 is already juggling 2 numbers from the night before whilst still casually approaching more girls tonight. Not only does this result into many more lays but it also makes the “flaking/failing” a very small or insignificant disappointment.
Having 3 date potential prospects already, one couldn’t care less about the chick that’s giving him a bad vibe after the approach. – You lose your fear of rejection –
You might say…but Joe 2 has no standards, where is he going to approach that many hot girls?
It’s not that Joe 2 doesn’t have standards; he’s just very determined when it comes to taming his beast. There’s nothing like a clear mind to focus on the bigger issue in life. Truth is, if you really want this to work, you may have to approach girls that aren’t your first choice but, we all know your “not so first choice” passes your boner test like a champ.
The secret to scoring often and in big numbers is to actually work on getting those numbers. Work hard and nothing else. Go out there in the real world, hit on some hotties, fail a couple of times but work towards that approach number because that’s really all it takes. Even if you’ve got NOT GAME AT ALL and your lay conversion number is 1 in 250, if you keep going you’re bound to get laid (think 30 approaches per night in 2 different venues, 3 nights out a week, you’re going to get laid by the end of this month).
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.
Worried About Finishing Too Quickly? Here’s How To Last Longer In Bed
You finally worked up the nerve to ask out that cutie from accounting. The date is going great, sparks are flying, and she suggests heading back to your place to hang out. It doesn’t take long for the clothes to start flying, and after some quick foreplay, it’s time for the main event. Only you get too worked up and cum almost immediately. Why couldn’t you last longer in bed?!
Look, we’ve all been there at one point or another. Maybe the girl was so far out of your league that you got too excited (like Jim from American Pie). Or maybe it’s been awhile since you’ve had sex, and you just couldn’t control yourself.
Sadly, for some people this is a regular occurrence. If you fall into that category, not to worry, as we’ve got some tips that should help you last longer between the sheets, ensuring that both of you get off and go to sleep with smiles on your faces.
1. Masturbate An Hour Or Two Before Sex
If you’re planning on having sex, it couldn’t hurt to rub one out a few hours beforehand. Why? Because unlike women, when a man ejaculates, his body (ie. balls) needs some time to recover before going for a second round. So if you empty the chamber before the big event, you should be able to go a little longer the next time around.
2. Take Care Of Her Needs First
It’s a known fact that women take longer to reach climax, so if you’re typically a little quick on the draw, focus on foreplay and getting her off first. Trust me, if you go down on her (sorry DJ Khaled) and focus on giving her the big O, then no matter what happens afterwards, she’s still going to be a satisfied customer who will likely be coming back for more.
3. Slow Things Down If You Need To
If you sense that you’re about to go past the point of no return, tell your partner that you need to slow down. You can say to her, “You’re so hot. I’m not going to last long if we keep this up,” and stimulate her orally or manually until you have regained control of the situation and are ready to continue. Trust me, she’ll appreciate your candor, and the fact that you’re looking out for her enjoyment as well.
4. Use A Desensitizing Spray
If you’re still struggling on how to last longer in bed, consider trying a desensitizing spray like Promescent for lasting longer during lovemaking. The spray absorbs into the skin in a matter of minutes, optimally desensitizing the penis and allowing for better control with negligible loss of sensitivity, so you can keep the party going a bit longer.
5. Try The Squeeze Technique
As the name suggests, the squeeze technique involves physically squeezing your penis (ouch) to stop yourself from cumming too soon when you feel your orgasm coming on. Simply stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis, applying firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger for about 5-10 seconds. Done right, this will temporarily decrease sexual tension, which represses the ejaculation response.
So there you have it, five tips to help you increase your sexual performance and help you and your partner get more satisfaction in the bedroom. And if all else fails, it might be time to discuss your premature ejaculation issues with a doctor.
Adult VR Distributors Look To Netflix For Inspiration
Digital subscription services like Netflix and Hulu have revolutionized the way that we watch video. Adult VR distributors are hoping it will do the same for VR porn. This month, the world’s most popular VR porn website announced a new subscription service called VRPorn.com Premium. It’s being hailed as the Netflix of VR Porn and some believe it might be the final step in taking VR porn mainstream.
For $19.95 a month, VRPorn.com will give you unlimited streaming and video downloads from all the major VR porn studios. While this might be old news for the film industry, it’s brand new for the adult VR world. Up until now, VR porn fans had to manage multiple subscriptions across different sites. Now, users can make a single monthly payment and unlock hundreds of full-length videos from over 25 of the biggest studios.
Major adult VR studios like BaDoinkVR, VirtualRealPorn, and RealityLovers are all taking part in the program. This large number of studios means that the Premium library already holds over 500 full-length videos with more being added on a weekly basis. A membership grants you access to many VR porn video games as well, unlocking exclusive demos of popular games like Virt-A-Mate, SinVR, and many others.
One of the major benefits of this new approach is that smaller, independent studios have the chance to gain more exposure. By pooling all their work together, VRPorn.com hopes to shine a light on some of the lesser known studios and encourage more producers to experiment with VR porn.
The rise of adblock and pirating software has made it difficult for many creators to make money off their work. One solution to this problem might be a transition towards more exclusive forms of media like virtual reality. Because VR video is still relatively rare, people are willing to pay a premium for quality content. If this project from VRPorn.com is successful it could provide a roadmap for all kinds of video artists who are struggling to monetize their content.
VRPorn.com already had millions of monthly visitors as the result of its free content. With this latest addition, the site hopes to transform some of that traffic into paying customers. It will be interesting to see how this new financial model plays out in the months to come.
A Gentleman’s Guide to Foreplay
“Hey babe,” you greet your beloved girlfriend as you come home from the gym. “Hey,” she reciprocates. You give her a quick peck on the lips. “How was your workout?”
“Fantastic…” you say dreamily, but the only thought on your mind at the moment is to release the horniness that’s been built up from your chest workout. From behind, you wrap your arms tightly around her abs and kiss her gently on the neck. Then you take her hand and try to take her to the bedroom.
“Sweetie…not now…” she says with a sigh.
“Oh…ok,” you say, visibly disappointed.
This is the third time this week she’s “not in the mood” If this happens again, I’m going to need a strait jacket.
Do you ever feel the lust in your sex life disappearing? Do you miss those first few times when you both couldn’t wait to get your hands on one another? Or maybe you feel uncomfortable when your date is going well, but you have difficulty transitioning from a riveting conversation to a sexual spark in the bedroom?
The key to maintaining this fire is foreplay. Women love it, but us men are often times too impatient to spend much time in this department. But, as a man, if you don’t take steps to get her in the mood for sex, then you won’t be having much of it.
For women, foreplay is just as important as sex, and a true gentleman knows how to turn a woman on.
Here are a few tips:
Most guys try to be efficient when it comes to sex, which means less teasing and more fucking. But a woman doesn’t want that.
Foreplay starts with verbal teasing while your clothes are still on. By teasing her, you show her that you are comfortable with tension, and tension is the gateway to arousal.
This is why makeup sex is so passionate. When she’s riled up and has an excess amount of tension built up, it’s all released through orgasm. With more tension, she’ll have a stronger release.
Something you can do to really turn her on is to make her anticipate your next move, but don’t immediately fulfill her desires. This will build up tension quickly.
For example, if you’re going down on her, don’t immediately thrust your tongue inside of her. Instead, go from making out with her to kissing down her body until you reach her pelvic region. Then lick the inner part of the upper thighs and kiss around her clit. When you start going down on her, lick her once lightly, pause, then lick a bit deeper. At this point, she will be gyrating her hips towards your mouth begging for more. Then go for it.
And the same concept applies right before sex itself. Before you stick it in, make sure you “paint the fence.” Take your penis and rub it up and down across the clit and vaginal lips. This will get her wet instantly.
2) Be verbally dominant
You can call her names if she’s into that, and a lot of girls are. You can also give her commands. As you are teasing her, you can say things like, “tell me that you want me…” or “say that you want me inside of you…”
Then she’ll be the one trying to escalate things.
3) Know the erogenous zones
Obviously everyone knows the lips. But also pay attention to her neck, her nipples, her butt, her inner thighs, and her ears. You can bite her neck, play with her nipples until they’re hard, grab and spank her butt, and lick and kiss her inner thighs.
The one body part that most guys miss is her ears. When you lick a girl’s ears during foreplay or during sex, it’ll drive her crazy.
4) Be present
To really get her turned on, you have to know when to switch things up and when to keep pressing on. So be present and watch her reactions.
If you notice that she’s getting really turned on when you bite her neck and pull her hair, keep doing that. But it’s usually best to see which erogenous zones turn her on the most and focus on those.
Don’t just follow the same routine. Experiment and change things up. Maybe you have certain “moves” that you’re experienced with, but if you open yourself up to different possibilities, then you might find something that will drive her wild that you haven’t tried before. Then that could become your next “move.”
If you want to differentiate yourself from the crowd, be sure to keep these tips in mind. Remember, most guys don’t know how to build tension. Sometimes they’ll get nervous and just want to “get laid” and get it over with. Sometimes they tire of the routine and feel like it’s an obligation. Sex should never feel like an obligation.
Once you go out and start applying these principles, you’ll become the guy who’s always on her mind.
About Marcus Awakuni
Marcus was a shy, introverted nerd turned ladies man. He studied mathematics as an undergrad at BYU and planned to attend grad school, but after his father passed away shortly after graduating, he had a change of heart. He moved to Las Vegas and became a dating coach, and is now dedicated to revolutionizing the dating advice industry with his new age approach. You can find him at AGL Lifestyles, or send him an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.