I’ve been doing a lot of day-game recently, simply because I wanted a change from the whole night-game thing. Amongst other things, I’ve noticed that the whole point of a day-game routine is to get A SOLID number. There’s absolutely no reason to expect sex within a few hours when you meet someone in a coffee shop or the train.
The following info will focus on some of the most common things one needs to get down in order to become awesome and succeed with day-game.
1. Don’t Hesitate
In a nigh-game scenario, not many people will see how you hesitate. When it comes to day-game, hesitation is very visible and quite frankly one of the biggest turn off for women. Oh, and let’s not forget that it also leads to approach anxiety which will eventually destroy any chances of success.
If you know you’ve got approach issues, use the 3 second rule and approach her with a basic opener (Hi, I’m Alex…you are?). This is NOT the best opener for any day scenario (the best ones are always situational) BUT at least this one is easy to remember and it will STOP you from hesitating.
2. Don’t Linger
This is tied down to the first point. If you hesitate, you will end up lingering around her like a creep. Obviously, the best thing to do avoid hesitation but if it just happens, walk past her and forget about it. It’s a lot better if the girl doesn’t notice you hesitating and then lingering, because you can have another go in the same location, either with her or with another girl.
3. Build An Emotional Connection
Building a connection on an emotional and intellectual level with a woman is absolutely key. Although the point of day-game is to get in and out as quickly as possible, you’re never going to be able to land that solid number unless you build a meaningful connection. That connection is what eventually drives her to reply to your texts/calls the next day.
If you can get inside her head you will win her trust and create immediate attraction between the two of you.
4. Don’t Do It If You’re Needy
All your qualities and flaws are a LOT more visible during day-game. If you’re not confident enough, you will come across as needy and women will feel that a mile away.
Work on building your natural confidence and present yourself as a true alpha male. Take control of your interaction and steer it in the direction you want it to go.
5. Have Patience
Do not confuse getting in and out as quickly as possible with rushing the whole interaction. The key word here is SOLID. If you expect to land a solid number you need to make it solid. Take your time, build that connection and don’t rush asking for it because even if she gives it to you, you’ll never get a reply. A solid number is 10x better than 5 numbers that are just going to flake on you.
6. Don’t Give A F**K
The biggest issue with day-game is the people around you. Coffee shops, busses, trains, parks are NOT loud. People will see and hear you trying to pick these girls up. If you care about it, you’re never going to succeed.
The best thing to do is to have a IDGAF attitude about everyone that’s around you. Sure, they might laugh with their friends about how you got rejected, or they may even laugh about how you’re trying to randomly pick up women in this particular coffee house but, do you care? You shouldn’t.
If you ever plan on succeeding at day-game, you need to get over this fear of public humiliation because all those other people are NEVER going to go away.