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How To Score With Older Women



How To Score With Older Women

A lot of the times when I get asked this question it seems that most younger guys think that older women hare harder to get. By older I mean at least 7 or 8 years difference. Guys that have this mentality are around 25 years old and the women are obviously over 30.

Funny enough, it’s not at all like that. Women over 30 are usually much easier to get. This is true because sadly, their looks are not as good as they used to be and therefore they aren’t getting as much attention anymore. But more importantly, they’ve had their fair share of relationships, they don’t play juvenile games and they know exactly what they want.

One of the best things about older women is the fact that they have confidence and maturity. You rarely see these qualities in women especially if you’ve only been with girls your age. If an older woman likes you, she’s not going to play games and pretend that maybe she doesn’t. She’s not going to create pointless ways of testing you and working for her attention. Instead, she’s going to show you that she likes you and if that’s the case she’s probably going to go home with you without it being awkward. These women are sexually experienced and don’t care if their friends consider them a “slut”.

What really makes them easier to get is the fact they’re insecure about their looks. Compared to a hot 23 year old girl who is in her prime and is very aware of how hot she actually is, a 33 year old woman, that may be very good looking is less aware of that fact and is more aware of how the 23 year old girl looks younger than her. This is primarily the reason why older women can actually be nervous around you in the early stages of the encounter as they are unsure if you will reject them or not. Because the balance of power is roughly even at the beginning, the pick-up experience is much more enjoyable.

Being with older women can be a very fun experience. Although they may not be as hot, the other benefits make it worthwhile. You can talk about interesting things as they have an extra 10 or so years of added experience to draw upon. They are sexually experienced and lack many inhibitions, plus unlike most girls around 23 they actually participate in the sexual act. Also, they can and will teach you new things and share valuable points, not just about sex.

I had my first older woman when I was 23 and then went through a MILF phase for quite a while. I’ve noticed that many guys do this at one point or another and it’s absolutely great, especially for developing one’s sexual abilities.

Ok, so here are some things worth looking into if you’re particularly interested in hooking up with an older woman. By older I mean at least 7-8 years older than you.

They are interested in outstanding maturity

Older women are not going to be impressed by the same things that work on 22 year old. Your funny lines and social proof from bartenders/bouncers are not going to do you any good here. They’ve been trough that when they were 20 and had enough of it. They’re also not going to care about your looks so much because the majority of guys that hit on them use hair regeneration treatments. It’s quite evident that their standards will be much lower in this category.

However, they will be attracted by a younger guy who carries himself with maturity and confidence. Basically you need to act beyond your years. You need to make them think that in 10 years you’re going to be this incredibly amazing man and any girl that will have you is going to be very lucky. It’s not much difference than the “investment theory” that works on younger girls but this has to be your prime selling point when it comes to older women.

They like to be in control

As previously mentioned, these women don’t have time for juvenile games such as pretending to be less interested when they actually are etc. If they feel genuinely attracted to you and want to have sex they will usually make that clear and quite often you can see them initiating the first move. You need to let them do it. This is how they are and this is what you need to do in order to succeed.

Many guys are uncomfortable with this and they start to play games but remember, outstanding maturity is what they want and if you don’t play it straight these women will quickly lose interest and class you as a kid that’s not worth their time.

They appreciate honesty

One of the best things about being with older women is the fact that their maturity and experience makes them a lot easier to deal with. Usually, you can be completely honest and they will be fine with it. For example, if you’re only interested in a one night stand, you can straight up tell them the truth and you’ll be shocked by how well they take the statement.

It’s important to note that, because they’ve been through so much in their lives, they will actually appreciate a guy who’s being honest. Plus, older women will very rarely view younger guys as relationship material meaning that she’s probably looking for the same thing. However this may change if you spend a lot of time with them and that brings me to my last point.

They can’t afford to waste anymore time

If you enjoy being with an older women, spending a lot of time with her and genuinely have a great emotional connection then you need to be very aware of this one important fact – she isn’t getting any younger.

This means that when a woman over 30 feels that you have some potential and there might be some relationship possibilities, she will speed up the process. They don’t have time for “Just seeing each other” as they’ve already done that at 20. If they’re over 30 and still single, they had some lengthy relationships that obviously fell apart or may very well be divorced and as a result, they just can’t afford “dating” someone for a long period of time.

If you continue a relationship with such a woman you will soon see that moving in together is right around the corner and kids are not that far away too. Be very careful with this and if you’re only interested in sex, break it off and don’t waste their time.

In conclusion dating older women can be very interesting and rewarding at the same time. They have a lot of new things to show you and in reality it’s actually not that hard to pick them up. Make sure that you’re honest with them from the beginning so you don’t have to deal with awkward situations later on.

Alex Matlock is an expert in dating and woman psychology. Apart from working on his PHD in Social Psychology and writing for Guys Gab, he also owns - a place where the "dating" mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.

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  1. V

    January 24, 2017 at 12:45 pm

    I am 41 and much of this is untrue.I am much more pickier than I use to be, my friends are the same way. Also, I still care just as much as I ever did about the physical appearance of someone I am going out with, I still have to be attracted to the person, just as I always have..If the full attraction isn’t there then I’m not intetested, and I don’t care how mature you are. If anything, women get pickier as they get older because not only do we want maturity, but we now know that we need the whole package to keep us intetested. We don’t want to get into something that will bore us later. We want the attraction to last if we’re going to invest our time. Just like men, we have learned that a relationship can get stale, boring, and don’t want to deal with immaturity, especially from an immature man who we are sick of at some point. So when a woman is older and more mature, been there and done that, she has learned that she needs the entire package, even if it’s just a fling..Men looking for a fling just want looks in a woman, but women are turned on by more than just looks so naturally there’s got to be a little more going on. The person writing this is acting like you can be so so in the looks department and land an older woman for a fling just by being mature etc..This is so wrong! If an older woman in going to just have a fling with a guy then he better be damn hot! Most woman don’t want flings, especially an older woman so how would it make sense that she would have a fling with someone she is not ccompletely attracted to? Young men are already not as experienced in bed so why in the world would they want to sleep around with a young, inexperienced man who was so so looking? Now, I have to be fair and say that a young man who is looking to to land an older woman will have luck if their not expecting to land a hotter older woman, but if you are looking to land a hot older woman then you better be bringing something good to the table. Most hot older woman are ok with not being as hot as they once were because they know that they still look good and know that they are still better looking than most woman of all ages and that there is no shortage of men to choose from. A hot 30 year old still has her choice of men period! And a hot 40 year old still has a huge selection of men to choose from and are usually bombarded with attention from men because they are still hot. Now this is not the case with a lot of 30 and 40 year Olds, just as it is with younger woman..If you are 30 or 40 and unattractive, then your going to not be getting the attention from men and thus being easier as stated from the author. But, on the other hand, this is also the case with younger women. Yes, she might be able to get more attention from older men, but not the kind of attention that she wants from men her own age, so in this case it doesn’t help to be young if your unattractive. Anyway, the author of this articlyoungworth listening if you are a young man looking for a fling with a so so looking older woman, but if you want to get with a hot older woman, then you better have enough looks along with the maturity to spark her interest, amongst other things..

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